Attract her attention. Yes, there must be something that should make your profile outstanding, comparing to "male, Aquarius, looking for an attractive.." boring stereotypes. It is your, great and unique personality presented here, so you better make it special.
Skip the details for later! Your personal description must be concise. So try not to waste the allocated for profile space on little details, give only key features of your personality, your interests and desires. If she will find you interesting (and this is one of the main purposes of your profile: to intrigue her), she will ask you about color of your eyes, size of your shoes and everything else that she might feel interesting to know about you. So save the details for her future inquiries.
Address her directly. You have to avoid any writing in third person, because such writing carries a serious psychological drawback. Here is an example. Assume that someone writes in his profile: "I hope to find a single woman, who likes to keep things in order and has great sense of humor, which helps her take things easy. Like, she can enjoy getting completely wet under warm summer rain," etc. She might be just that type of a girl described in this passage, but because of the third person she can miss the message, feeling that this is all about someone else. How not to miss such opportunity? One has to write in a first: "Hey, I am looking for YOU, please, wink to me if this is written about you: I love when everything in my life is in order, but if I am getting caught in a warm summer rain I just laugh and enjoy it. It is life and I am thankful for an opportunity to get a little wet once in a while!" You see, the content of the examples is the same, but the way of expression is different. And I guarantee you that the second version will attract much more attention!
Dont be too serious. Your profile, of course, should not be an entire joke. However, making it as a formal memo is a bad idea either. This is not your curriculum vita or statement of purpose! So give her a wink with your words, trick her (just a little), but be balanced. Try to be serious and funny at the same time. Good sense of humor is always a plus.
Mystify! It is hard to predict a woman, but there is a way to stir her interest: women love mysteries. So give it to them! Leave untold parts in your story, leave blanks, stir her curiosity and interest and be assured, she will wink to you or may be even will write you first! If she would fill the gaps in your story with her imagination, she would love to know how good are her guesses, so you will have her attention and this is what your profile is for!
Be careful in your exclusion list. You should not be offering your friendship to anybody, but being too picky may hurt your chances of finding a good match. Of course, the majority of men want to exclude from their dating list everyone who is ugly, mean or stupid, but, be careful when you are setting these limits: keep in mind that 80% of women (including super-attractive ones) are displeased with their own constitution, appearance and intellect. Besides, ultra discreetness may repel a good match because she may think that you are seeking a model under influence of some inferiority complex (not good for you). Since turn-offs are often listed in the heading of your profile, if disappointed, she may not even look into anything else about you.
Language. The correct writing often is taken as granted, while slips in the grammar are always noticed and taken into consideration. Even if you will write that you are a successful, kind and handsome entrepreneur with a seaside mansion in Malibu who dreams to fill it with kids and pets, two grammar mistakes will give her a serious doubt about your words and your maturity (even if every word your wrote is a word of truth).
No to physical boast. By all means avoid any male self-advertisement (unless your aim is a 1-2 night relationship). There is no need to tell the world how is your stamina in the bedroom: you dont need any silly statements in your profile.
Only the truth! Be honest in your profile and with your photos, you will be rewarded. Lie is something that sooner or later gets recognized, there is no point risking a potentially great relationship with a disgrace.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck. - 16463
Skip the details for later! Your personal description must be concise. So try not to waste the allocated for profile space on little details, give only key features of your personality, your interests and desires. If she will find you interesting (and this is one of the main purposes of your profile: to intrigue her), she will ask you about color of your eyes, size of your shoes and everything else that she might feel interesting to know about you. So save the details for her future inquiries.
Address her directly. You have to avoid any writing in third person, because such writing carries a serious psychological drawback. Here is an example. Assume that someone writes in his profile: "I hope to find a single woman, who likes to keep things in order and has great sense of humor, which helps her take things easy. Like, she can enjoy getting completely wet under warm summer rain," etc. She might be just that type of a girl described in this passage, but because of the third person she can miss the message, feeling that this is all about someone else. How not to miss such opportunity? One has to write in a first: "Hey, I am looking for YOU, please, wink to me if this is written about you: I love when everything in my life is in order, but if I am getting caught in a warm summer rain I just laugh and enjoy it. It is life and I am thankful for an opportunity to get a little wet once in a while!" You see, the content of the examples is the same, but the way of expression is different. And I guarantee you that the second version will attract much more attention!
Dont be too serious. Your profile, of course, should not be an entire joke. However, making it as a formal memo is a bad idea either. This is not your curriculum vita or statement of purpose! So give her a wink with your words, trick her (just a little), but be balanced. Try to be serious and funny at the same time. Good sense of humor is always a plus.
Mystify! It is hard to predict a woman, but there is a way to stir her interest: women love mysteries. So give it to them! Leave untold parts in your story, leave blanks, stir her curiosity and interest and be assured, she will wink to you or may be even will write you first! If she would fill the gaps in your story with her imagination, she would love to know how good are her guesses, so you will have her attention and this is what your profile is for!
Be careful in your exclusion list. You should not be offering your friendship to anybody, but being too picky may hurt your chances of finding a good match. Of course, the majority of men want to exclude from their dating list everyone who is ugly, mean or stupid, but, be careful when you are setting these limits: keep in mind that 80% of women (including super-attractive ones) are displeased with their own constitution, appearance and intellect. Besides, ultra discreetness may repel a good match because she may think that you are seeking a model under influence of some inferiority complex (not good for you). Since turn-offs are often listed in the heading of your profile, if disappointed, she may not even look into anything else about you.
Language. The correct writing often is taken as granted, while slips in the grammar are always noticed and taken into consideration. Even if you will write that you are a successful, kind and handsome entrepreneur with a seaside mansion in Malibu who dreams to fill it with kids and pets, two grammar mistakes will give her a serious doubt about your words and your maturity (even if every word your wrote is a word of truth).
No to physical boast. By all means avoid any male self-advertisement (unless your aim is a 1-2 night relationship). There is no need to tell the world how is your stamina in the bedroom: you dont need any silly statements in your profile.
Only the truth! Be honest in your profile and with your photos, you will be rewarded. Lie is something that sooner or later gets recognized, there is no point risking a potentially great relationship with a disgrace.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck. - 16463
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