Ok, youve fought, argued, broken up, and now you want to get your ex back. Is there any relationship advice that will work?
When breaking up, what happens for everyone is that our feelings of closeness and connection with our partner get replaced by emotions like anger or betrayal. This is why we fight and break up. It's just what happens to couples the world over.
But then you started feeling regret. After a day or a week or two you started to feel like you missed those feelings of closeness and connection. The angry or hurt feelings started to get replaced by other feelings. So lets look at this truth about feelings. For the most part, intense feelings like anger dont last. They change!
You understand this from your own life experiences. You've been mad at somebody at work and after a day or two the anger diminishes. You've been sad about something that happened to you and again, after just a day or two, it goes away. This is important Emotional Logic to notice. Feelings shift and are in flux for all of us.
Now that youve broken up and you want your ex back, you have experienced this first hand. During the break up, you were mad or hurt. Now, you notice feelings of longing and desire return. Youd like to give your relationship another chance. This may seem like Im stating the obvious, but there is a very important point here to notice about emotions. They change.
However, some feelings can take a while to change. They can get stuck. If your ex doesn't want to get back together with you, then they are still stuck with feelings of hurt or betrayal. For example, if you cheated on your ex, this brings up strong feelings in them that are hard to deal with. Your ex is likely still filled with powerful emoitons like sadness and shame or rage.
How then can you use Emotional Logic to help you to get back with your ex? One simple important thing you can do is to help them to get their negative feelings released and resolved. Help them to "vent" these feelings and get them off their chest. You did this by asking them in varioius ways how they feel about whatever you did that triggered the break up. "How are you feeling about what happened?" Then be silent and let them start to vent or spill their hurt feelings out.
Do not argue with them or try to explain yourself endlessly. Let them do all the talking, you listen. That way, you avoid more arguing. Make them right, whatever they say, for just these few minutes. After a short time of venting, your ex will often begin to let go of the charge they have about what happened. Then, they can begin to start to feel better about you!
Theres much more to it, but helping your ex to get things off their chest can be an important step in moving past the break up. Since we all know feelings change, you want their bad emotions around you to change and venting helps this to happen! - 16463
When breaking up, what happens for everyone is that our feelings of closeness and connection with our partner get replaced by emotions like anger or betrayal. This is why we fight and break up. It's just what happens to couples the world over.
But then you started feeling regret. After a day or a week or two you started to feel like you missed those feelings of closeness and connection. The angry or hurt feelings started to get replaced by other feelings. So lets look at this truth about feelings. For the most part, intense feelings like anger dont last. They change!
You understand this from your own life experiences. You've been mad at somebody at work and after a day or two the anger diminishes. You've been sad about something that happened to you and again, after just a day or two, it goes away. This is important Emotional Logic to notice. Feelings shift and are in flux for all of us.
Now that youve broken up and you want your ex back, you have experienced this first hand. During the break up, you were mad or hurt. Now, you notice feelings of longing and desire return. Youd like to give your relationship another chance. This may seem like Im stating the obvious, but there is a very important point here to notice about emotions. They change.
However, some feelings can take a while to change. They can get stuck. If your ex doesn't want to get back together with you, then they are still stuck with feelings of hurt or betrayal. For example, if you cheated on your ex, this brings up strong feelings in them that are hard to deal with. Your ex is likely still filled with powerful emoitons like sadness and shame or rage.
How then can you use Emotional Logic to help you to get back with your ex? One simple important thing you can do is to help them to get their negative feelings released and resolved. Help them to "vent" these feelings and get them off their chest. You did this by asking them in varioius ways how they feel about whatever you did that triggered the break up. "How are you feeling about what happened?" Then be silent and let them start to vent or spill their hurt feelings out.
Do not argue with them or try to explain yourself endlessly. Let them do all the talking, you listen. That way, you avoid more arguing. Make them right, whatever they say, for just these few minutes. After a short time of venting, your ex will often begin to let go of the charge they have about what happened. Then, they can begin to start to feel better about you!
Theres much more to it, but helping your ex to get things off their chest can be an important step in moving past the break up. Since we all know feelings change, you want their bad emotions around you to change and venting helps this to happen! - 16463
About the Author:
You can discover powerful proven ways to get your ex back in a book about Get Your Ex Back In One Day. John Laney teaches relationship intelligence courses and you can get a free course here on Advanced Relationship Advice Help Secrets.
