Tuesday, December 23, 2008

How To Win Your Ex Back - Your First Move

By Millard Scott

When that special love in your life decides to break up with you it can be an extremely emotional and stressful time. Most relationships can be rekindled if you are willing to try, and if you know how to win your ex back. It all starts by making your first opening move.

Emotionally you will be hurting after your break up and this can often cause you to do things out of desperation to win your ex back. This is the time when you really need a proven plan in order to have the very best chance to get your ex back into your life. The things you do out of emotion will tend to be the wrong moves and only serve to push your ex farther away from you.

Do not resort to calling or text messaging your ex constantly to confess to them your undying love. Never call them if you are intoxicated or doing similar useless things. You must keep your cool and not let you emotions dictate your actions. Emotional responses tend to lead you to do the wrong things and only serve to worsen your chances.

You can now plan out your first move with a clear mind. Do not wait to act here because time is your enemy in a break up situation. The sooner your do this the better your chances of having success.

Your first move is to tell your ex in a calm manner that you agree totally with the break up. Let your ex know that you think this is the right thing to do at this time. This may not feel like the right move, but this is a well proven psychological method that works well. This strategy has helped many people in the same situation to win back their ex lovers.

The reason this move works is because when you calmly agree with the break up your ex will suddenly start to see you in a different way. You no longer appear to your ex as a pathetic person clawing desperately to hang onto them, but as a stronger person who can actually go on without them. This will actually make you more attractive to them because people tend to be more attracted to things that are harder to get or things they cannot have.

Once you make this first move you will need to stick with your decision to play it cool. Resist your emotional responses and stick with the plan. Anything that you do at this point to show that you are not serious will just allow your ex to see right through you. This move sounds simple and easy, but it takes some fortitude to carry it out to it's completion.

The method discussed here is only the start of the process to win your ex back. There are more steps that you will need to take in sequence with this opening move in order to get your ex love back into your life. You need to take all of the steps in the plan to have your best chance of success. - 16463

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