If you are hoping to win back your ex, you will have to handle it very delicately. It's important to know that her feelings and yours are hurting and that they still are, even if you're feeling OK right now. Great care must be taken so that you can avoid triggering the arguments that caused you to break apart.
Here are some suggestions:
You should reflect on what the cause of the break up was and whether changes for the better are possible. What can you do to ensure that break ups don't happen in the future? Compromises may be necessary. Will you be able to live with them? Will she? Understanding the "why" of the break up will also enable you to avoid any accidental triggering of old conflicts when you make your first attempts to get her back.
There are two requirements that are somewhat contradictory. On the one hand, it is vital that you stay in contact with her. On the other, you can't come on too strong since this will only serve to push her away. In fact, communication with her should be scaled back but not cut off after a break up.
You will have to let her know in a subtle and casual way that you still want to be a part of her life. Communication should be relaxed, casual, and not too frequent. Drop her the occasional "Hey, what's up" email but don't load up her inbox because you will come across as pushy, desperate, or needy.
Find innocent and safe ways that demonstrate that she is still in your thoughts. Show her that she matters to you by remembering the important dates in her life such as anniversaries. Send a card on her birthday and on holidays.
It's important not to allow yourself to be cut off from the world. Enjoy your other friendships and maintain a social life. This will help you to stay upbeat and confident. Your ex must never get the impression that you are falling apart over the break up.
She should think that you're doing fine but that her welfare matters to you. This enables her to rethink the times that the two of you shared without feeling pressured.
Finally you should work to become friends with her again. This will reacquaint her with the fun things that you did together and will build trust. The trust will strengthen over time and bring you closer together and hopefully something deeper will develop.
When it comes to winning back your ex, there's no exact method but these suggestions will get you started. Staying in touch with her is vital but remember to keep it subtle. Get too aggressive and you'll scare her away. - 16463
Here are some suggestions:
You should reflect on what the cause of the break up was and whether changes for the better are possible. What can you do to ensure that break ups don't happen in the future? Compromises may be necessary. Will you be able to live with them? Will she? Understanding the "why" of the break up will also enable you to avoid any accidental triggering of old conflicts when you make your first attempts to get her back.
There are two requirements that are somewhat contradictory. On the one hand, it is vital that you stay in contact with her. On the other, you can't come on too strong since this will only serve to push her away. In fact, communication with her should be scaled back but not cut off after a break up.
You will have to let her know in a subtle and casual way that you still want to be a part of her life. Communication should be relaxed, casual, and not too frequent. Drop her the occasional "Hey, what's up" email but don't load up her inbox because you will come across as pushy, desperate, or needy.
Find innocent and safe ways that demonstrate that she is still in your thoughts. Show her that she matters to you by remembering the important dates in her life such as anniversaries. Send a card on her birthday and on holidays.
It's important not to allow yourself to be cut off from the world. Enjoy your other friendships and maintain a social life. This will help you to stay upbeat and confident. Your ex must never get the impression that you are falling apart over the break up.
She should think that you're doing fine but that her welfare matters to you. This enables her to rethink the times that the two of you shared without feeling pressured.
Finally you should work to become friends with her again. This will reacquaint her with the fun things that you did together and will build trust. The trust will strengthen over time and bring you closer together and hopefully something deeper will develop.
When it comes to winning back your ex, there's no exact method but these suggestions will get you started. Staying in touch with her is vital but remember to keep it subtle. Get too aggressive and you'll scare her away. - 16463
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