The majority of people have been through a break up at one time or another in their life. Most things we go through in life become easier the more we have to go through them, but a break up is never easy no matter how much you have to deal with it.
Most people will desire to get back their ex love, especially if the feelings between them were strong. If you were in a relationship that was physically, or verbally abusive to you, then you would be better off not to seek to get back with that person ever again. To do so, would be to set yourself up for more of the same abusive treatment. Consider yourself lucky to be out of the relationship.
Most relationships seem to follow a predictable pattern. When you meet initially, everything seems to be just wonderful and new. It seems your partner can do no wrong, nor can you in their eyes. Later on a certain amount of comfort settles in and you adjust to each other, then the trouble usually starts. When the newness of the relationship has faded away and the comfort is still there, then things will begin to change. The small things that once didn't bother you now become hard for you to overlook.
Remember the saying: "Familiarity breeds contempt." Truer words could never be spoken for relationships. After a couple gets comfortable and familiar with each other, the trouble usually follows. This is the thing that tests the strength of a relationship. It takes some effort and work to keep a relationship going. Sometimes when things go wrong, instead of fixing things up, the other person wants to get out of the relationship completely.
If you have just went through a break up in a relationship and you think that it is worth as effort to save it, here are 5 tips that can be of help.
1. Make an apology
If you are at fault in any way, then you should go ahead and apologize, but don't over do it. Just make your apology once and then move on.
When apologizing do not let your ex bait you into an argument. Sometimes saying that you are sorry to an ex can lead to another fight. If your ex brings something else up, just stay calm and don't get defensive. Keep you emotions, your ego, and your pride in check.
2.Talk things over
Set aside a time when the both of you can sit down and have a talk. Do not beg or try to use emotions to force your ex into this discussion. If they don't want to do this just move on to the next step. If they do agree, you are going to have to stay cool and not get emotional. Make sure your ex understands that you have no desire to bring blame into this discussion.
3. Give your ex some space
This will likely not be easy to do because it is counter intuitive to what your emotions may dictate you to do. It is critical that you allow your partner some space and a brief time away to collect their thoughts. This will give them a chance to start to miss you again. If you are constantly in contact with them they will not have the chance to miss you and appreciate you.
4. Show your ex that you care about yourself
Don't just sit around home looking and feeling sorry for yourself. Show your ex that the break up is not the end of your life. Keep up your appearance, go out with your friends, go to movies, concerts, or whatever. Do things that demonstrate to your ex that you are not just waiting around for them like a knot on a log. Don't ever give the appearance of being a charity case waiting around for them all the time.
5. Don't be always available to your ex.
It is a good thing for you to not be always available to your ex at their every whim. If your cell phone rings and you see that it is your ex, don't be so eager to jump on the call. Let it go to your voice mail and get back to them the next day. This may not feel right for you to do, but it is a proven psychological move that works very well. After a while this will make your ex start wondering what you are up to. This can also make you appear more attractive in the eyes of your ex and increase the chances of the both of you getting back together. - 16463
Most people will desire to get back their ex love, especially if the feelings between them were strong. If you were in a relationship that was physically, or verbally abusive to you, then you would be better off not to seek to get back with that person ever again. To do so, would be to set yourself up for more of the same abusive treatment. Consider yourself lucky to be out of the relationship.
Most relationships seem to follow a predictable pattern. When you meet initially, everything seems to be just wonderful and new. It seems your partner can do no wrong, nor can you in their eyes. Later on a certain amount of comfort settles in and you adjust to each other, then the trouble usually starts. When the newness of the relationship has faded away and the comfort is still there, then things will begin to change. The small things that once didn't bother you now become hard for you to overlook.
Remember the saying: "Familiarity breeds contempt." Truer words could never be spoken for relationships. After a couple gets comfortable and familiar with each other, the trouble usually follows. This is the thing that tests the strength of a relationship. It takes some effort and work to keep a relationship going. Sometimes when things go wrong, instead of fixing things up, the other person wants to get out of the relationship completely.
If you have just went through a break up in a relationship and you think that it is worth as effort to save it, here are 5 tips that can be of help.
1. Make an apology
If you are at fault in any way, then you should go ahead and apologize, but don't over do it. Just make your apology once and then move on.
When apologizing do not let your ex bait you into an argument. Sometimes saying that you are sorry to an ex can lead to another fight. If your ex brings something else up, just stay calm and don't get defensive. Keep you emotions, your ego, and your pride in check.
2.Talk things over
Set aside a time when the both of you can sit down and have a talk. Do not beg or try to use emotions to force your ex into this discussion. If they don't want to do this just move on to the next step. If they do agree, you are going to have to stay cool and not get emotional. Make sure your ex understands that you have no desire to bring blame into this discussion.
3. Give your ex some space
This will likely not be easy to do because it is counter intuitive to what your emotions may dictate you to do. It is critical that you allow your partner some space and a brief time away to collect their thoughts. This will give them a chance to start to miss you again. If you are constantly in contact with them they will not have the chance to miss you and appreciate you.
4. Show your ex that you care about yourself
Don't just sit around home looking and feeling sorry for yourself. Show your ex that the break up is not the end of your life. Keep up your appearance, go out with your friends, go to movies, concerts, or whatever. Do things that demonstrate to your ex that you are not just waiting around for them like a knot on a log. Don't ever give the appearance of being a charity case waiting around for them all the time.
5. Don't be always available to your ex.
It is a good thing for you to not be always available to your ex at their every whim. If your cell phone rings and you see that it is your ex, don't be so eager to jump on the call. Let it go to your voice mail and get back to them the next day. This may not feel right for you to do, but it is a proven psychological move that works very well. After a while this will make your ex start wondering what you are up to. This can also make you appear more attractive in the eyes of your ex and increase the chances of the both of you getting back together. - 16463
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