Compared to guys, girls are usualy very "verbal". After a breakup, they often have the urge to share their feelings with their ex boyfriend, write him a long letter to tell him how she feels. But is that smart? Should you write a letter to your ex boyfriend?
Are letters any good if you try getting a guy back? Well, I went through two major breakups in my life, one after a year and a half, and one after five years. After both, I found great relieve in writing down my feelings. But after both, sending my letters containing those feelings to my ex boyfriend, did more bad than good.
Guys and girls are fundamentally different. After a breakup, guys usually don't respond too well to emotional letters from their ex girlfriends. Of course there can be exceptions, but in general they just don't have the effect that we hope for.
In a lot of cases though, women tend to send a letter to their ex boyfriend, hoping to get "closure". This is counter-productive.
I would suggest doing the following: Write your feelings down, but don't send them. Just do it to get a clear perspective on the situation.
Another possibility, if you want to share your thoughts, is to post them anonymously on a forum or blog. Posting stuff online is way better then sending a direct letter/email to the guy in question. A post on a blog site will give you inspiration to write other stuff, and will cause you to meet new people.
If you wanted to write your ex boyfriend a letter, and now you don't know what to do.. I would recommend you have a look at this article that is all about getting a guy back.
Well I hope you found some value in my article, and if I can just give you one thing to keep in mind it would be this: Value your friends, and the time you spend with them. Dont take their love for granted. - 16463
Are letters any good if you try getting a guy back? Well, I went through two major breakups in my life, one after a year and a half, and one after five years. After both, I found great relieve in writing down my feelings. But after both, sending my letters containing those feelings to my ex boyfriend, did more bad than good.
Guys and girls are fundamentally different. After a breakup, guys usually don't respond too well to emotional letters from their ex girlfriends. Of course there can be exceptions, but in general they just don't have the effect that we hope for.
In a lot of cases though, women tend to send a letter to their ex boyfriend, hoping to get "closure". This is counter-productive.
I would suggest doing the following: Write your feelings down, but don't send them. Just do it to get a clear perspective on the situation.
Another possibility, if you want to share your thoughts, is to post them anonymously on a forum or blog. Posting stuff online is way better then sending a direct letter/email to the guy in question. A post on a blog site will give you inspiration to write other stuff, and will cause you to meet new people.
If you wanted to write your ex boyfriend a letter, and now you don't know what to do.. I would recommend you have a look at this article that is all about getting a guy back.
Well I hope you found some value in my article, and if I can just give you one thing to keep in mind it would be this: Value your friends, and the time you spend with them. Dont take their love for granted. - 16463
About the Author:
Mariah Tames is a psychology master, who became specialized in relationship problems. You can You can read more of her ideas on getting a guy back on her site, and feel free to share your opinion if you want!
